How does one introduce the topic of pre-marriage education to a couple in the giddy thropws of an engagement without sucking all the joy and love out of the room? This is a conundrum that keeps us at the Before You Say I Do team on our toes. The future for couples in the period before the wedding is bright. These are genuinely exciting times, the sort of times you will look back and remember fondly for the rest of your lives. Your whole lives together are ahead of you, optim

The Magic Doesn’t Maintain Itself Ask any couple planning a wedding how much effort goes into the day, and they’ll tell you: months of planning, hundreds of decisions, a spreadsheet for everything. Ask how much effort goes into the marriage that follows, and the answer is often a shrug. Surely, if you love each other, the rest takes care of itself? As family mediators, we spend our working lives with couples at the other end of the story. Very few of them stopped loving each